Father of the Dateless

So, lately I've been in a funk, nothing to write about, although I've been too busy to write and nothing of note really has happened to me that I haven’t already let you know of. But I realized something when talking with HNK the other night. Well, I guess I have been realizing these things for a bit, so now it’s time to share.

These days I have been anti dating, anti relationships (for me, not others) and now, I think I might be ready and open enough to start again. How? I don’t even know where to start. Online dating is not my forte, never has been, so I’m not sure where I am going to meet such dates, but I think now, I do want to let someone into my life. My hectic, crazy ass busy life. Oh well, its how the cookie crumbles, right?

I have some more confidence, as now with the new gig; I am able to be able again. At my new (awesome) job, I almost daily receive compliments from my manager. No, not smarmy compliments. For instance. Out of the blue, I’ll receive a text saying "Stacey, you’re a real asset to the company and our team." That to me is amazing, and I love being recognized when I am awesome. Who doesn’t? With the new gig, I have been designated social director, if you will. I joined us into the chamber of commerce for our area, and will be the face of the store at networking events. Perhaps this will lead to romance. Even if it’s not the long term, I need to get back into the game. I of course would never disrespect or embarrass my company or myself, but it’s an avenue, right?

So, with that being said, we (HNK and I) were talking about how maybe we might be single. I said I think that we have reverse daddy issues. See, our dads are awesome. They are amazing men. Men that you do not find much anymore. We grew up seeing how they would do anything for our mothers, and especially for us. We were never told no, and neither were our mothers. We are used to a man to be accommodating and doting to a woman. I am not saying by ANY means that it means "gimme gimme gimme" and when we are told no, it’s a travesty. I am not saying that they disrespect themselves in the process either. No. What I mean is that they would do anything for us, so in some respect, we expect a potential boyfriend to do the same. When they don’t, it is alarming, and we feel pissed off or like we are being rejected. We are not used to "no, I cannot come over and snake your drains." What? What do you mean no! My dad has told me and engrained in my head to never count on any man, except for him. However, still, I know that I want a man like him. Someone who will go grocery shopping with me every time, who will sit in the mall while I have my spa day, who will go with me even when I say no, but really mean yes. One who will not even think twice about driving me to the airport or coming to meet me at work for a 30 minute lunch.

Of course, this goes both ways, and when I am in a relationship I am totally in it when I really feel it. I will do those things for him too. My last relationship was more me than him. I took off work several times and rearranged my schedule to drive him back and forth to the airport when his family needed him. I remembered that he metioned he didn’t have this or that, and when I was out, picked it up for him. I made sure I was available to see him when I could, and yes, I expected the same from him. It didn’t end because I didn’t get it, but it would have been a problem if it continued.

What I am saying is basically what I am looking for in a man. I am not looking for someone to kiss my ass. Quite the opposite. I like it when I'm called out on my bullshit, as I do the same. I just hope that these types of awesome men, like our dads, are not extinct and love is not lost. I refuse to settle anyways, so I may remain single for the rest of my life, which is OK. Perhaps all men ARE like this, only when they really love the person they are with. So until then, I will keep searching for the one that I really love and who honest to God loves me too.

I will finally see my future husband in the flesh!

OK, now I have something incredibly exciting to share! My future husband, Jon Lajoie is FINALLY coming to The Magic Stick in Detroit next month for a show! I already bought tickets and am going to be impatiently waiting for December 9th!!!!!

The Gods are looking down upon me!

The Attractive Girls Union

I know, I know, I havent been around much lately. As you know, I've picked up that third job, and am deep in working every day. I've also had the pleasure of being deathly ill for a while and just now coming to normalcy. Nothing of importance or interest has really happened lately to share, so I wont bore you with nothingness. I'll give you this video that was sent to me. I found it pretty funny, and alarmingly true. Enjoy!

History That has Forever Changed Our Nation

It's happened. Barack Obama won the race for President of the United States. (DUH, we all know this by now, right). I was working the night of the elections, and I raced home to turn on my TV to watch the coverage. I thought for sure I'd be up until 3am waiting for the outcome. My jaw dropped as I saw how close to 270 electoral votes Obama was in comparison to McCain. I knew the answer before it was even announced. When they finally revealed that Obama had kicked McCain’s arse all over the town, I cried with joy and pride and inspiration. I cried for history has been made and I made a point to remember every little detail about where I was that day, what I was doing at that moment, what sounds I heard outside, and what smells I smelled. I cried for the milestone that was made for minorities in this country. I cried happy tears with everyone on TV. I am so proud.

I watched McCain’s Concession speech and it left me with a respect for him as a gracious opponent who lost the game. I liked that when his supporters actually booed the new President of the United States that he hushed them up. I liked that even though he ran against Obama, that he declared his support for his President. I also liked that we didn’t have to hear from Sarah Palin.

I sat on the edge of my couch waiting to hear from our new Prez. When he came on the screen, I cried with joy again. Here it is below if you missed it. It is one that will go down in history forever and ever.


This election was not only history for the USA, but globally as well. People all over the world were glued to their TVs or radios awaiting an outcome. I am so touched that as we rejoiced, the world rejoiced with us. The USA has become a nation in which other countries have lost respect for. Bush did not seem to care about international relations and in response to that, our country has been looked upon in a negative way. No, not everyone will love us, but the humanitarian side of our country has escaped us for the last 8 years. Barack Obama has given new hope around the world and world leaders hope to establish a new connection and mend a 'broken relationship' with the USA. Check out this article titled Obama Sparks Victories and Cheers from Around the Globe.
I am not sure how the next 4-8 years will pan out. I do know to be patient. 4 years is not a long time to get everything you want to get done, not even 8 years. But it’s a start to something. A something that is good, and that will inspire next generations of Presidential candidates to come.

I leave you with the words of our new President:
"This is our time, to put our people back to work and open doors of opportunity for our kids; to restore prosperity and promote the cause of peace; to reclaim the American dream and reaffirm that fundamental truth, that, out of many, we are one; that while we breathe, we hope. And where we are met with cynicism and doubts and those who tell us that we can't, we will respond with that timeless creed that sums up the spirit of a people: Yes, we can."

The Day Before One of the Most Important Days in History in Our Lifetime

I can’t wait to vote. Like, seriously, I can’t wait. I have never even really wanted to vote as I thought "eh, no one really applies to ME". But on the evening before the polls open, I am nervous, excited, and thrilled to witness and be a part of history. I'm sure you've guessed that my pick for the next President of the United States of America is Barack Obama, but if tragedy strikes forth for me tomorrow, and McCain wins, history has still been made. Regardless of race and sex of the candidates and their running mate, though, is still a historical time. Never can I remember our nation so enthralled and excited about a presidential race. Maybe I just never paid attention, but this is it folks, tomorrow.

The past 8 years have been something all of us have talked about and complained about. I even voted for Bush the first time around. Yes, I know...I did, but so did the majority of the people. Like I said, I didn’t know much better. I did my research about 2 days ahead of time, and was not incredibly informed. Four years ago, I happily did NOT vote again for W. What made me say HMMMM today was the price of gas. I hadn’t needed to fill up the tank in a while, so I don’t normally pay attention to the price unless I absolutely have to. Today I didn’t fill up, but went to CVS right next door to my neighborhood Speedway. I did a quadruple take. The unleaded price was $1.99. It was UNDER $2 a gallon. OMG, this is a miracle! But then my cynical side took a turn in my head. It’s the day before the election to replace the hell and crap that has run our country for 8 years. Someone we blame for high gas prices...get my drift? Now the price of gas is suddenly under $2 on the day before he is ousted from that huge White House. Something to look back on and say positively about him? "Hey, he wasn’t that bad; by the end of his run he got gas prices down."? Makes me wonder. HOWEVER...not complaining. I just hope it stays this way when I need/afford gas.

Back to my excitement about this election. No matter who you are voting for, what is important is that you have the voice to make your decision and have a hand in contributing to the better of the country. I am urging everyone to vote for Obama, but I know that there are McCain supporters, and that is your choice, your God given right by this country. I am voting for Obama because I agree in his position on most of the issues. I believe that he will work for the middle class. I believe that more than ever, our country needs that. I work 3 jobs, and meet so many people who are even worse off than I am with families, who need someone who supports them. I am inspired by his enthusiasm and compassion for what is important. More than once, a tear has escaped from my eye when he speaks of his plans for change. I am hopeful and I want change in this country, my country, my life.

Through my excitement also lies a layer of fear. I am a complete Obama supporter, but there is always the fear...did I make the right decision? Whatever will be will be, but all I know in my heart of hearts is that we need a change in the way things are being done. Its time. Please, please go out and cast your votes tomorrow in what YOU believe in.